Facing Fears

My Super Muscles is notorious for being scared. Particularly of loud noises but he also has other fears. One such fear, is a fear of... MONSTERS! I don't even know where the turkey learned about monsters since we don't watch much tv and certainly nothing scary. But somehow, he did learn about monsters. We were dealing with this shortly before Slobber Rocket was born and it was consuming our little boy. He was constantly thinking about the monsters in his room. I would tell him that there were none or that we made them leave the house or... whatever I needed to say to get him to sleep.

So, right around Super Muscles birthday (which is 9 days after Slobber Rockets) we were opening gifts from family since we had missed Christmas with them. And one of the gifts Super Muscles opened was...
Enter the puppet we lovingly refer to as "Crazy Monster". He was a gift from my Aunt and Uncle and just what my little scared boy needed. Once we named him and got the big kid calm enough to play with him and use the puppet we started having a dialogue about how unscary monsters were. "Crazy Monster" is silly and only wants to make little boys and girls laugh and have fun! So now when he gets scared, we refer back to "Crazy Monster" and he makes bed time a little easier (night stars too but that is a different story).

Here is what reminded me of "Crazy Monster" this evening,...
And just because my kids are pretty darn cute... here are a couple more pictures :)

Breast is best, if you do it discreetly.

One of my friends recently posted this article on facebook. Well, its not really an article. It is a reply to an episode of The Doctors that she saw. I found it pretty interesting. I lie somewhere between this woman and "the doctors".

I use my breasts to feed my child. I don't think it is gross, needs to be hidden, or is something that should get nasty stares. I don't think that a woman should "have" to cover her child when s/he eats because that is what society demands either. I generally do cover up though out of respect for those around me who may not be comfortable with someone nursing completely exposed. But, I don't cover my baby on 90 degree days or when I am in my own house (be warned) or in a group of people who I know just don't care. I also know my state laws and would have a fit if someone told me I couldn't nurse somewhere. I love to talk to other moms about nursing and I like to provide them with help if they need it.

It frustrates me that women don't help each other learn to nurse either (I really feel this would increase the rate of success). I don't know why. I generally assume its because many of our parents didn't nurse and lots of us don't live near family anyway. But if you are my friend and you need help, I will come help you! I was glad that when I was nursing SM, I had a friend that was going through it at the same time and we could talk about it openly and give suggestions and tips.

Maybe I won't go as far as signing an indiscreet manifesto or anything but if we truly want breastfeeding to be what the vast majority of parents do in this country, we need to let go of the boob hangups. There are moms who won't nurse solely because they can't see around nursing in public. We are a knowledgeable group of people and the data is out and distributed and it proves that breastfeeding is nutritionally superior to any other food we can feed our babies so lets start encouraging women and helping them if they are willing to give it a shot. No more dirty looks, no more freaking out if you see boob skin, no more expectations of covered babies... just let a mom feed her child, the world will be a happier place.